As a mom it is especially important to make sure that you are in a happy and peaceful environment. That’s pretty hard to accomplish if you haven’t learned how to get rid of clutter, so today’s focus is on some tips to declutter your life and organize your home.
Here’s a quip organization tip for how to keep your stairs clear of dangerous and unsightly tripping hazards.
There are constant news reports about this generation and entitlement, but it didn’t start with this generation. It was actually started by our parents and with our own children we have perfected it. Less than a hundred years ago our grandparents wanted their kids to have a better life so they worked hard to make that happen scrimping and saving to send their kids to college. Our parents in turn wanted even more for us and now our kids expect it all to be given to them. Jack Donaghy from “30 Rock” put it more eloquently, “The first generation works their fingers to the bone. Second generation goes to college and innovates new ideas. The third generation goes snowboarding and takes improv classes.”
I know too many 30-somethings who still feel like the world should treat them like mommy and daddy did. When they get treated critically by the real world and find it too difficult, they move back home. This is the problem with everyone getting a trophy in soccer. Yes the winning team gets a trophy everyone else, sorry… try harder next time. It’s a good life lesson. Plus there are many things you do in life because you enjoy it or it simply needs to be done. I don’t get a trophy for participating in my family activities such as making dinner or doing laundry — it’s just part of life.
10 Ways To Stop Entitlement Parenting
No free handouts — Create jobs around the house and pay your child for work well done. Teenagers should get weekend jobs. In life if you want money, you work.
Fewer presents — More isn’t better. Teach your children to be happy with what they have and to cherish new items.
Instill work ethic — Being lazy or fast and careless isn’t going to get your kid ahead in this world. Help them to learn the satisfaction of a job well done.
Buy secondhand items — Show your kids how to take something used and make it “new.”
Teach respect of authority — Your child’s future boss will thank you.
Buy older technology — Teach your kids about NOT keeping up with the latest trends. How it’s okay to keep something till it breaks. This will also help them to avoid future credit card debt.
Teach the value of money — Show your kids ways you save money around the house. How your reuse old towels as rags or buy generic. Let them know how much things cost and even have them pay bills. This is especially important for teenagers. Car insurance and designer jeans aren’t free.
Learn family history — Tell them stories and let them know where their grandparents and parents came from and how hard they had to work to get there. Help your children to value education and what they have in life.
Teach the difference between rights and privileges — Kids have the right to eat the food you buy. Doritos are a privilege.
Assign family responsibilities — Kids can be in charge of a certain area of the house. For teenagers let them see more of what it takes to run the household. Let them help you make the grocery list, get the groceries, put them away then make the meal and clean up after.
Character building life lessons aren’t the fun part of parenting. Let’s be honest, teaching your child work ethic sucks. It’s always easier to just do it yourself. Teaching your child about saving money for something they want is not as much fun as watching them smile when you surprise them with it. We love bringing joy to our children’s lives, but that is only part of the equation. It is our JOB to train our children to be adults. To teach them how to carry on the happiness they’ve felt in childhood into adulthood and instill values that someday they’ll have to suffer through teaching their children.
Here are some tips from one SAHM to another on how to work from home. It’s all about the focus Keep watching for more working from home tips.
Travis is continuing today with more tips and advice on how to be a good husband. Today he’s branching out into “Healthy Eating”.
With so many demands on a mom’s time it’s easy to forget to take care of yourself, so today get ready to talk about making yourself happy! When’s the last time you took some time to do what you love? Do you even remember what it is that you used to enjoy doing?
Are you one of the many struggling moms who puts everyone first but yourself? Modern Homemakers video theme song and intro. Hello this is Joquena with Modern Homemakers, and today we’re going to talk about something that, well quite frankly I think it’s pretty darn important and I think a lot of us mom’s kind of forget about it.
We’re gonna talk about making yourself happy. No one else can do this for you. People can do nice things for you. One of the most important things in making yourself happy is first of all to remember what makes you happy! It’s like when we become a mom everything that we were kind of get’s pushed away and it’s like there are all these necessities.
I have to feed people. I have to do the laundry. I have to make sure everyone is alive. You know, every day, that’s a big job. And like in the midst of that it’s kind of like you take you and you shove you away in a box somewhere and the dust starts to pile up, maybe get some cobwebs.
And you’re lost! And even if you do get some free time it’s kind of like, oh maybe I’ll watch tv or maybe I’ll just take a nap because you don’t even remember what you enjoy anymore because it’s like it’s been so long since you’ve gotten to use it.
Practical application today, I want you to do a little Wayne’s World time warp ok if you don’t know what Wayne’s World is please go watch it ‘cause it’s hilarious. Anyway I want you to go do that Wayne’s World time warp and go back to the you before you had children. Do you even remember you before you had children?
So grab out a piece of paper or an app on your phone that you can type or talk into and I want you to think about it. Were you in any clubs in school? Did you used to have hobbies that you just haven’t had time for in a gazillion years? I mean what were your hopes and dreams back then? Because part of being happy is even remembering those things.
And if you’re not careful this can lead to frustration because you’re going to go well darn it I don’t do anything for me anymore so we’re not going to try to change this all right away but I want you to remember what you used to love. And your feelings may have changed, kind of like foods you may used to have loved spaghetti and you’re sick to death of it now.
For me it’s writing. I love writing and when I had the children I kind of just shoved it away. Like creative writing, I do the blogging but as a fiction writer I was just like oh there’s no time for that and I’m never going to get to finish it so why would I even start it?
And a few years ago I was just like forget it. I’m going to do this for me because if I keep waiting for my babies to get grown up and I keep having babies I’m never gonna get to do what I want to do. Whatever it is for you, figure it out write it down and it could be several things I love crafts I love writing I love healthy cooking whatever it is write it down and I want you to make a commitment to yourself that you’re going to spend just a few minutes every day you know it doesn’t have to be like a marathon session where you have babysitting and the stars align and this miraculous 5 hour filming photography whatever session that you like to do.
It could be that you like to exercise whatever it is. And I want you to whatever amount of time it is you can every day whether it’s five minutes if it’s ten minutes I want you to find a way to cut something else out of your schedule, or watch one less tv program or spend ten minutes less doting on your wonderful children and give that back to yourself.
And it’s amazing, when you start doing a little something for yourself you’re a nicer person, genuinely like you’re happier. It may not seem like much time and hey if you have two hours to give to yourself, give it to yourself! But that may be unrealistic for a lot of you so I want you to take that time, however much time you can give yourself, 5 10 minutes whatever, and start spending a little bit on you every day.
My husband is like wow, there’s that interesting person that I married. It’s like we got boring after we had children because we didn’t allow ourselves to be who we were anymore. It’s like I stepped into this motherhood role and it’s an amazing wonderful role to be a mother. Don’t get me wrong, I’m a full time mom but that doesn’t mean you can’t also follow your hopes and dreams and take care of yourself.
I mean, let’s face it there are some days we’re lucky to even get a shower and sometimes we’re not so lucky. Anyway, take a few moments, that’s your challenge for the day for the week, whatever. Make yourself happy and make everyone else happier in the process.
I don’t know about you but as a mommy I sure do have a hard time finding quality entertainment that I can watch with my kids and actually enjoy. Which is why I’m so excited to talk about Drive Us Crazy today because seriously it’s adorable. I’m just going to come right out and say that this show is about my sister MeLisa who founded Modern Homemakers with me.
You can watch this show completely for free and it’s available on youtube. My kids love this show (not just because of Aunt Mel) but because it features other kids that they can relate to. Episodes can get a little whacky and it’s ok if you pity Ryun when all of those girls team up on him, but then again I’m all for girl power so you’re on your own Ryun!
I have to point out how much I love the title because if you didn’t notice it already it has a double meaning. For starters the show literally features the family driving around in their minivan (don’t worry it’s not boring because they have some crazy conversations) and then they go do fun things and you get to watch them as they go on everyday adventures that we can all relate to. Whether it’s a theme park trip or a visit to the local grocery store everyone is going to have fun.
And the show all focuses on how as much as we love our family they can drive us crazy like now one else. Seriously who else can push your buttons better than your loved ones? My sister and her husband have adopted all 6 of their children and they love to focus on how it’s love that makes a family.
I really wish there was more stuff like this out there. There is so much on television that is just dark and inappropriate. This show is a breath of fresh air and quite frankly the kids are adorable and you’re going to love what they have to say.
What are some of your favorite reality shows or just family friendly programing in general? Please share in the comments section below!
Today we’re featuring a Guest Post from my friend April. Please go visit her at her blog: New Creations!
But Enough from me, let’s hear from April..
About a year ago I was on a search for ways to make money at home. It was during this time that I discovered Donna Partow’s book Making Money from Home, How to run a Successful Home Based Business. This book details everything from setting up a home office, writing a business plan, choosing a line of business, legal issues, and marketing. If you’ve thought of making money from home, I really believe this book will guide you through the process.
Each chapter contains questions for review at the end. It is helpful to take time to answer these questions on paper as you go along. You will discover a lot about yourself and your potential business.
In the first section Donna discusses pillars for long-term success. These ten pillars set a foundation for your business and include things like choosing a business you enjoy, researching your intended line of business, self-discipline, and more.
In addition to these things, she gives you an overview of what a business plan looks like and how to write one. Included in the book are a Business Plan worksheet and a First Year Operating Budget sheet.
Now get ready for some fun and self-evaluation! The second section of the book discuses home-based business options. Donna talks about global flea markets (i.e., Ebay), direct sales and network marketing, Information products (special reports, e-books), and affiliate marketing. She includes a Third-Party Analysis to give to friends. The purpose of this sheet is to help you identify a line of business.
Next, and perhaps the most important part of her book discusses business basics. There are many legal and financial issues to consider and this part of the book touches on those issues. She lays out the steps necessary to set up your business. You’ll learn about sole proprietorships, LLCs, trademark names, opening a business bank account, and more.
In this section she also talks about mastering self-management. Donna discusses organization and time management, both of which are essential to running your home-based business. In addition, she talks about setting goals and even delegation.
The fourth section details ways you can market your business. You’ll read about starting a blog, social media, mailing lists, and SEO (search engine optimization). Experiment with her suggestions and find out which ways work best for your business.
The final section is important as Donna talks about putting family first. She discusses balancing your family needs with your business and having the support of your spouse.
In chapter 17, she instructs you to sit down with your husband and discuss your business idea with him. “Without his support, your business simply cannot succeed.” If you have children, chapter 16 offers suggestions about balancing both your business and children’s needs and even how to include your children in your business.
In conclusion, this book is a great resource for anyone (especially mom’s) seeking to start a home-based business. Check it out of your local library first and see if the information in this book is as valuable to you as it has been to me. For more information, check out Donna’s website at www.donnapartow.com.
This free crochet hat pattern is super fast and easy to make. I not only made the hat but filmed the video during a single nap time Whether you’re a beginner crocheter or a seasoned pro this is a great short term project… not like the afghan you’ve been working on for the last three years haha!
I designed this hat to fit my 8 year old daughter’s head, but it also fits my wig head so it should fit most adults as well. To follow are a video with step by step instructions, a typed version of the pattern that you can feel free to print off to follow along, and the printable brim pattern piece. Enjoy!
For The Main Hat Portion
Chain 65, join loop with a slip stitch
Ch 1, 64 SC, join loop
Ch 1, 64 HDC, join loop
Ch 2, 64 DC, join loop,
Ch 1, 64 SC, join loop
Ch 1, 10 HDC, skip 1, 53 HDC, join loop
Ch 2, (20 DC, skip 1)x2 , 20 DC, join loop
Ch 1, (15 SC, skip 1) x3, 12 SC, join loop
Ch 1, (10 HDC, skip 1) x5, 1 HDC, join loop
Ch 2, (8 DC, skip 1) x5, 6 DC, join loop
Ch 1, (4 SC, skip 1) x 9, 1 SC, join loop
Ch 1, (3 HDC, skip 1) x9, 1 HDC, join loop
Ch 1, (2 SC, skip 1) x 9, 1 SC, join loop
Ch 1 (2 HDC, skip 1) x 6, join loop
Ch 1 (1 SC, skip 1) x 7
For The Lower Band
Attach yarn to the bottom of the hat.
Chain 2, 64 DC, rotating in front and behind the post all the way around.
Complete 3 more rows of chain 2 64 DC, making sure to go in front or behind the post so it’s exactly like the row before it. This will make it look like knitted ribbing.
The Hat Brim
Skip 2, 28 SC, turn
Ch 1, 28 SC, turn
Ch 1, skip 1, 25 SC, skip 1, 1 SC, turn
(Ch 1, 26 SC, turn) x 3 rows
Ch 1, skip 1, 23 SC, skip 1, 1 SC, turn
(Ch 1, 24 SC, turn)x 2 rows
Ch 1, skip 1, 21 SC, skip 1, 1 SC, turn
Ch 1, 22 SC, turn
Ch 1, skip 1, 19 SC, skip 1, 1 SC, turn
Ch 1, 20 sc, turn
Ch 1, skip 1, 17 SC, skip 1, 1 SC, turn
Ch 1, skip 1, 15 SC, skip 1, 1 SC, turn
Ch 1, skip 1, 13 SC, Skip 1, 1 SC, cut and tie off thread.
***Repeat entire Hat Brim process again so you have to pieces. Follow video instructions to sew together and place over cardboard.