With so many demands on a mom’s time it’s easy to forget to take care of yourself, so today get ready to talk about making yourself happy! When’s the last time you took some time to do what you love? Do you even remember what it is that you used to enjoy doing?
Are you one of the many struggling moms who puts everyone first but yourself? Modern Homemakers video theme song and intro. Hello this is Joquena with Modern Homemakers, and today we’re going to talk about something that, well quite frankly I think it’s pretty darn important and I think a lot of us mom’s kind of forget about it.
We’re gonna talk about making yourself happy. No one else can do this for you. People can do nice things for you. One of the most important things in making yourself happy is first of all to remember what makes you happy! It’s like when we become a mom everything that we were kind of get’s pushed away and it’s like there are all these necessities.
I have to feed people. I have to do the laundry. I have to make sure everyone is alive. You know, every day, that’s a big job. And like in the midst of that it’s kind of like you take you and you shove you away in a box somewhere and the dust starts to pile up, maybe get some cobwebs.
And you’re lost! And even if you do get some free time it’s kind of like, oh maybe I’ll watch tv or maybe I’ll just take a nap because you don’t even remember what you enjoy anymore because it’s like it’s been so long since you’ve gotten to use it.
Practical application today, I want you to do a little Wayne’s World time warp ok if you don’t know what Wayne’s World is please go watch it ‘cause it’s hilarious. Anyway I want you to go do that Wayne’s World time warp and go back to the you before you had children. Do you even remember you before you had children?
So grab out a piece of paper or an app on your phone that you can type or talk into and I want you to think about it. Were you in any clubs in school? Did you used to have hobbies that you just haven’t had time for in a gazillion years? I mean what were your hopes and dreams back then? Because part of being happy is even remembering those things.
And if you’re not careful this can lead to frustration because you’re going to go well darn it I don’t do anything for me anymore so we’re not going to try to change this all right away but I want you to remember what you used to love. And your feelings may have changed, kind of like foods you may used to have loved spaghetti and you’re sick to death of it now.
For me it’s writing. I love writing and when I had the children I kind of just shoved it away. Like creative writing, I do the blogging but as a fiction writer I was just like oh there’s no time for that and I’m never going to get to finish it so why would I even start it?
And a few years ago I was just like forget it. I’m going to do this for me because if I keep waiting for my babies to get grown up and I keep having babies I’m never gonna get to do what I want to do. Whatever it is for you, figure it out write it down and it could be several things I love crafts I love writing I love healthy cooking whatever it is write it down and I want you to make a commitment to yourself that you’re going to spend just a few minutes every day you know it doesn’t have to be like a marathon session where you have babysitting and the stars align and this miraculous 5 hour filming photography whatever session that you like to do.
It could be that you like to exercise whatever it is. And I want you to whatever amount of time it is you can every day whether it’s five minutes if it’s ten minutes I want you to find a way to cut something else out of your schedule, or watch one less tv program or spend ten minutes less doting on your wonderful children and give that back to yourself.
And it’s amazing, when you start doing a little something for yourself you’re a nicer person, genuinely like you’re happier. It may not seem like much time and hey if you have two hours to give to yourself, give it to yourself! But that may be unrealistic for a lot of you so I want you to take that time, however much time you can give yourself, 5 10 minutes whatever, and start spending a little bit on you every day.
My husband is like wow, there’s that interesting person that I married. It’s like we got boring after we had children because we didn’t allow ourselves to be who we were anymore. It’s like I stepped into this motherhood role and it’s an amazing wonderful role to be a mother. Don’t get me wrong, I’m a full time mom but that doesn’t mean you can’t also follow your hopes and dreams and take care of yourself.
I mean, let’s face it there are some days we’re lucky to even get a shower and sometimes we’re not so lucky. Anyway, take a few moments, that’s your challenge for the day for the week, whatever. Make yourself happy and make everyone else happier in the process.